The biggest lie about women is that they are not as sexual as men. They are, like men, engineered to procreate. But unlike men their choice of a mate is not solely driven by looks.
Women are geared to look for the best provider. Yes women look at six pack abs and like the idea of getting pounded by some handsome stud; yet that is only part of their psyche. A fit man adds to the tally but there are other things that will drive a woman to a man. Although physical appearance ranks near the top during the hunt. How else can she grade the group of men she may want to breed with? Physical appearance is the first thing a woman sees and it determines whether or not to continue the pursuit. Now that we have determined that she may show interest, let’s look at soft talents that drive a woman to a man.
Leadership
Leadership is a quality that is easily visible in any setting. This is why men have established the “wingman” approach. The wingman allows for one man to take the lead and show his prowess as being an alpha. If done correctly, the “wingman” will be submissive to the alpha. This will show the woman that the preferred target is a capable leader that others will follow. Taking it simply, she wants to breed with the alpha of the pack.
Confidence
Confidence and Leadership go hand in hand. You cannot successfully play the “wingman” game as an alpha without confidence. But you can fly solo if you have a strong confidence level. Confidence is not ego. Ego is a negative essence. You can have pride in what you do, just don’t overpower people with it. Confidence means you know your limits and that you can press them. Confidence is also admitting you don’t know something. Knowing yourself is key to confidence. If you are handsome, know it; own it. But here’s a news flash; unless you are disfigured like Quasimodo you are handsome. Confidence isn’t about looks; it’s about standing tall with your shoulders back ready to take on anything.
Success
Success is what you do. You don’t have to be a Wall street banker rolling up in a Bentley to show success. You should be proud of what you do. If you are welding pipe at a construction site be proud of it. Not every successful person drives a BMW. A Ford F250 is nearly $100k. Farm equipment to run a farm can cost upwards to $500K. So that manure smelling farmer may well be banking over six figures. Own your success, but it is your business. She doesn’t need to know what you do and often times she really doesn’t care. But she will have a good overview of your success by how you feel about it.
Nurturing
Nurturing happens after she has decided to bed you. You can imply if you are dancing with her. This is why it is important to be well rounded and able to at least not step on her feet when the time comes. Taking a country western dance class to learn how to two-step isn’t a bad thing. It’s really the only form of music out there where holding a woman is part of the courtship in public. My apologies to smooth jazz and ballroom but the sheer numbers make country and western a clear winner here. Don’t like country and western? Try going to a rock concert showcasing a band with a couple of power ballads. You can’t deny panties don’t dampen when Poison sings “Every rose has it’s thorn”. It’s like every woman’s ballad because it describes her as a rose but she has hidden flaws. Nurturing is nearly always a dating thing. But sometimes a situation can present itself so be prepared.
In the end it’s up to you
This by no means is the summary answer for everything. You have to be aware. I have had women eye me up entering an establishment. I have gotten numbers and dates just by going someplace to grab a beer. Like I said before, be confident and prepared. You may meet the next girl out of the blue in line at the grocery store or at some business meeting. We are handed opportunities all the time. We just have to be observant enough and aware enough to notice and be prepared.