The Reasoning.
Women do not normally approach males looking for sex. Especially if the woman is currently in a relationship no matter how bad it is. Women are typically submissive to men. Men are the pursuing party. Now if a woman is approached she now has a choice. And then she is coerced into an adulterous relationship due to the competing male. Notice the word competing; men compete for women because we are designed to. Women choose the best male based on fitness.
Scenario 1.
A woman in a not so great maybe boring relationship is approached by a handsome man that provides adventure and by all appearances is better than her current choice. Man scores even if he does not surpass her current provider only because he seems a better catch.
Scenario 2.
A woman is in a relationship that has gone stale. A man approaches her and gives her attention that she craves. Again the woman surmises the man is a better catch because of his caring nature. With both men being equal in wealth and standing; the caring guy gets the in.
Both scenarios do not have the woman openly pursuing the man. She is not stopping the advances. Why should she; she loves the attention.
In all my years I have only seen two women actively pursue a man. Both were married in loveless relationships, one abusive. Both relationships were at an end and the only thing left was to let the lawyers duke it out. And in both there was a mutual pursuit on the male’s part. He just didn’t have to work as hard as most do.
I have seen women succumb to men on more than one occasion when the man is doing the advancing. The world is full of men like this. Women know this, and you know it too if you are a man. Hell, you might be one of them. I am not condemning the behavior. If the woman is open to the advances then her prior relationship is suspect anyway. The trick is to not get caught up in the drama in her life. Like all things an assessment should be taken of the potential gain versus the potential problems.
Warning signs to look out for.
Jealousy – this by far is the worst thing in the world where relationships are concerned. A jealous man could easily be offended by you taking his woman. This man could be your best bud had this not happened. On the other hand, a jealous woman who is cheating may suspect the same of you and fly off the handle. Either way people need to understand that relationships are just that, a relationship. Sure if you feel betrayed you will want retribution but is it worth it; is she worth it?
Also, keep in mind a fling is just that. It may become a recurring thing but realize your situation. If you become attached to your affair and she is just using you for meaningless sex (oh, the horror!); smothering her will turn you from stud to stalking freak. This will end any contact with this woman and with good reason.
Disease – A flirtatious woman may be skilled at the game. This means she may have been seduced before. The benefit to this is that she may be more receptive if she has been successful before. The problem is she may be spreading the love too. Wrap that rascal; no woman is worth the pain of an incurable disease. This is basic advice for any non-committal relationship.
Cling ons – This is the worst thing to happen to a single man. I am certain all men have experienced this. A woman wants all your attention all the time. No more time to catch a beer after work with the buds. The worst version of this is the stalker. This woman not only wants your attention, she shows up at your haunts to see if you are there. She is making sure she is the only filly in the stable. Beware of this, no matter how hot she is or how good she is in bed, run away. This is trouble brewing that will end badly for you.
Tragedy girls – The tragedy girl is someone you scored with who is now in dire straits due to something of her own doing. What she wants from you is saving. This woman may or may not offer up herself for you saving her. Tragedy girls love drama and create it every change they can. Be forewarned, if you save her once you will be requested to save her again. This can not only interrupt your plans but may even serve to sabotage any future plans. This woman should be avoided. The only possible outcomes are constantly saving her or becoming committed to her.
Commitment – Okay, you have decided to commit and she agrees. I have seen my share of hook-ups turn into committed relationships. This is not a bad thing sometimes. Realize what you are getting into. If there is an ex involved it can and will get messy. You are also sacrificing your freedom for this woman. Now the hidden issues begin to surface. As mentioned before, jealousy may rear its ugly head. If she has transgressed with you the possibility of her transgressing again are higher than most. Also, she will be wary of any habits that may cause you to stray. Communication and reassurance are keys to success, but that is a different article.
Benefits
1. Not your problem. If you hook up with an attached woman, unless she is psycho, when the deed is done it is no longer your problem. She will go back to her man and all the drama follows her. BEWARE
2. Freaky freakin’ sex. The woman may be more receptive to adventurous sexual behavior. This is a fling to her. She wants to be ravaged, taken and left dripping. Take your vitamins and sharpen your imagination. If you leave her disappointed, it will get around, especially if you are the office stud. The down side is if you leave her panting for more and you are the office stud; forget any other conquests in the office. Unless she has a secret fantasy of being with a woman. In a closed environment, end one relationship before starting another. It is much better to seek conquest outside of your work environment, albeit harder due to a lack of comfort and common interests.
3. Advertising. In the rare occasion, the woman may provide a little healthy advertisement for you and may even assist you by turning her trusted friends your way. Now all you have to do is figure out how to charge for your stud service.
Be aware that in all things your judgment is paramount in how successful you are. Taking on a cheating woman or convincing a woman to cheat should not be taken lightly. Remember that nice set of tits and cute ass come with a woman attached that may well turn into Mister Hyde when the tires hit the road. Always have an out. I cannot stress this enough. Unless your goal is a long term relationship with this woman, have an exit strategy. By no means give her a key to your place or allow her move some of her stuff in. You know what; don’t bring her to your place at all. You are inviting to be her exit strategy if her other half finds out. Let her drama stay in her world.